Gender Bias

Somethings just don't change!!!
Today we talk about liberation of the girl child. But are we ready to flush the gender bias out of their minds first??? Even if we are, will the people around allow us to do so? My father gets annoyed when he sees Barkha Dutt on television. He says he does not like her. He would prefer Rajdeep Sardesai to her any day. I really dont understand why. She is equally capable. My Mother once quoted about Kiran Bedi, 'She could reach so far because her husband was supportive.' It makes me wonder, why ,in the 21st century too, we still have to depend on males for taking important decisions. 'Girls are not supposed to be ambitious' If she is ambitious, she is tagged to be dominating. I don't understand the connection here. Why aren't we applauded for striking the right balance between family and work? How many husbands help their wives at home? They say doing the household work is degrading, yet they want to know and more importantly they want to criticise whatever is cooked for dinner! When these guys want to marry they would not accept anything less than a girl who has a clean record; irrespective of what they have done in their past lives. Hypocrites!!! In an arrange marriage the girl has no say. She has to do many 'tray holding drills' till she gets 'selected'. As if it is a reality show called 'The Best Possible Girl for The Best Groom on The Earth. Some say getting a girl married is easy, you leave her to her destiny. But getting a boy married is the most difficult task on the earth. What if the 'wrong girl' comes into the family? Yeah yeah... get your girl married and the burden is off your shoulders! One of the reasons why female foeticide and infanticide does not stop. How much ever we talk about doing away with gender bias, we cant. The reason being it is in the Indian mentality. More than the mentality it is deeply rooted in the Indian Patriarchal Society. However I m blessed that my parents have not given me anything less than they have given to my brother. But when I see the society as a whole, the difference still persists.

Dilemma... to do or not to do...

I am actually clueless now... I have to choose between doing something and not doing something. My heart says do it. My brain says don't. I want to listen to my heart, but cant ignore my brain too. What to do???

Forgive and Forget

After we lost the Sydney test horribly, India will always be remembered for the right reasons. Today our cricket team took back all the charges against Brad Hogg which obviously gave us an upper hand and the Aussies could do nothing but just watch and acknowledge our gesture. Not that I m a huge follower of Gandhism, but somewhere down the line we Indians know the importance of 'forgive and forget.' When Kumble at the end of the test match said , there was only one team who played the game in a true spirit, he was right... Not only that... That team played the gentleman's game in a true gentleman's style.

Back on Track!

Sorry my dear blog for not blogging for days... but here I m blogging again. The dreaded 2007 is gone and 2008 has brought in a new ray of hope. I really like the way 2008 has shaped up and I hope this momentum continues. I still remember what mom and my Friends told me... Just hang in there... Don't lose hope and more than that don't lose yourself. Apni toh band baj gayi hai mamu. Pata hai jo bhi hua woh bahut galat hua. Isse bura kya ho sakta hai? Abhi jo hoga acha hoga. So I m back saying... Main apni favourite hoon!!! Ye Jab we Met hangover jara jyaada ho gaya nahi? But wats the problem if it is doing me good?

A sweep! Rap Rap Rapport Rewind!

Not a clean sweep, but atleast respectable and more importantly lived upto people's expectations... After screwing up the GD royally, our class was still leading thanks to Anandita's classical dance(we had a joker and rapport rewind on it... so dat makes it 6+20 points for one single event) and Antakshiri. Third day literary picked up speed...2nd in marathi creative writing(Nirmohi), 3rd in Hindi elocution(I), 3rd in spell bee(Anandita and I...not had expected even to qualify), 1st in English creative writing(Kushal), 2nd in debate(Hrudyesh and I)...Debate was fun. I did not know what I was talking, just went on and on to realise there was a thud thud sound of clapping; which made me feel I was right on track. I m not satisfied with my performance tho, could have done better. Anyways, all well dat ends well!

P.S. We also one the social skit which we went and did on the spot!

A change of scenario...

Just a few days before, I was happy december was here, but not anymore. I longed for d college fest to start, but not anymore. As it is approaching, a simple feelin of boredom is creeping in. A classic example how everything changes in a jiffy.This reaction may have been triggered by a particular event that happened last week and that mebbe the reason why I have lost interest in almost everything. Or mebbe it is just a general feeling of boredom! Mebbe it is just a phase of my life. I hope it fades away soon. I want to b chirpy as I was earlier. I want to yap, I want to blabber non-stop...

Has it happened with you?

Has it happened with you?

1. You want to do something and you end up doing the opposite.
2. You want to fight back but you have no clue how to go about it.
3. You want to fly but your wings have been cut off.
4. You want to express yourself but you don't have words to do so or there isn't anybody around to give u patient ear.
5. You want to scream at the top of your voice but you are not permitted to do so.
6. You are feeling suffocated in a particular environment but you don't have the courage to break free.

Smacked down hard on the ground...

Just when you feel you are going good and something happens and there you are 'smacked hard on the ground'. I am really low on confidence. My mom and friends tell me that I am taking things too drastically. Mebbe I am! But I refuse to accept whatever has happened. It is not my mistake and I will prove it. I will not retire till I give a fight back. There is only one thing that is keeping me going now, 'People who care for me, love me have not given up on me. So I will not give up on myself.' But one thing I cant promise. I cant be the same chirpy self I was a week ago. That would be too much to expect...

Kyun??? Kyun???

In my last blog I said I love the month december. I wish I knew it could also be called as 'dicey december'.On Friday our class results will be out. This time our parents have been called to the college(for the first time in the history of podar!) to collect our results. Why? Why? And to add to the misery there is this feeling of helplessness. You feel like a puppet when u see the amount of politics and corruption around.(ppl of podar would know what i am talking abt.)
Friday is the D day for us. Aaar ya Paar situation. Sita maiiya (Sita Ramanan-our coll principal) is going to do our Chir-Haran... On the same day there is this prestigious elocution competition in the college. I want to participate. But I m faced with these mixed feelings. The result thing is sinking in and I cannot concentrate on anything else.
Just asking one question.... KYUN???

Yeah baby... December is here!

December, December, December!
Time for more wonders!
I love this month... Inspite of being the last month of the year, I love december for the fact there is so much of fun and frolic around. It feels great to spend nice chilly mornings in the company of friends and yes also wid the tapri cutting chai. Colleges celebrate different days... rose day, saree day, tie day, chocolate day, blah blah and also not to forget the action packed intra college fest that our college organises for us at the end of the month. And ...like the icing on the cake my cousins are coming to India from US for a visit after 2-3 long years. Dying to meet them.........

Sick of complaining now!

Since the past one week I m trying to renew my net account, but somehow its not happening. When u book a renewal pack , how happily these call centre ppl tell u,"Mam, ur pack will reach u in 48 hrs." Forget 48 hrs, it reached me after 144 hrs... Now thats a bit too much! Wait wait the misery does not end here. When u try to renew ur account, the pin no is faulty...Phbbt! Seriously I have lost the patience now. Trying my level best. I dunno when i will b able to login now. Tired of complaining again again!!! Grrrrrrrrr!

Such a party booper... sharvari!

Saturday is saree day and rose day in college and party booper sharvari is not going... Why??? I dunno! Mebbe I have lost interest or mebbe I m just palying one lazybump... yeah yeah wear pointed heels, saree and travel like that in the suburban local train and then come back home in that dreaded TMT bus... At the end of the day if your legs dont hurt then tell me... Phbbt!

Two fat ladies...88

I simply cant get past this figure no matter what I do. SSC it was 88%, HSC 87% and now my ZDfB(5th level german exam at mas muellers) report card says 88%. I missed the magical 90 by 4 marks. Hmmm... not fair!!! Mebbe I m not good enuf... Mebbe I need to work harder... but how much??? Thats my question

Belling the cat on the birthday eve of a mouse...

Confused??? Wondering whose birhtday it is? Tommorrow i.e. 18th November is Mickey Mouse's Birthday. Happy birthday Mickey Mouse!
Still wondering where does the cat come from? Ahh!
Well tomorrow lakhs of mice (MBA asirants) will take on the mighty CAT. I call them mice coz this baap of all entrance exams has given, is giving and will give a lot of MBA inspirants nightmares. Only a few thousands will be able the bell the cat.What a way to celebrate the most darling mouse's birthday! phew!!!

First gear is always difficult...

It has been 15 days since I am learning how to drive, but how much ever I try I cant possibly get it right. The most difficult part is getting started with the first gear. Initially I did not know at what point to hold the clutch and at what time to release it. I used to curse the makers for putting that clutch there. A car only with the brakes and accelerator would be just fine. But alas!!! Things don't function as we want them to. They often change our mode of functioning. And as it is said, 'No matter what you do taking the first step towards anything is going to be difficult.' This might explain why the first gear is not so easy as it seems. The key lies in never giving up or getting deterred inspite of the repeated setbacks. Just keep going and counter all the hindrances with the same zest and enthusiasm as you had for the first obstacle and one day you will sail smoothly.

Ok!!!Enough of pravachan!
I hope I sail smoothly...(i mean) ride safely. Actually I should! There is no charm or thrill in doing things if they are easy.

Where dogs piss, people find the same place to kiss???

eeeeeeeeeeks!!!
I had been to this place called upwan lake wid 2 of my friends for a walk and we could see only 3 things.
First... the lake which was heavily polluted wid all sorts of kachra.
Second...dogs pissing under the tree.
And third... Love birds sitting under the trees(the same ones which i assume had been visited by dogs earlier) and getting cozy wid each other.

heeeheeeheeeheee! thats when we came up wid the one liner... Where dogs piss, ppl find the same place to kiss!

Gali, Gali, Deepawali aai re...

Here comes the most awaited festival of the year...Diwali. Diwali along with it brings loads of happiness and prosperity. People forget their egos and exchange sweets and delicacies. Doorsteps are decorated with rangoli and you can see the auspicious diya everywhere(as Diwali rightly means a row of lights). But one thing I don't really like about the festival is crackers. They pollute the atmosphere and are very harmful. How many of us actually know that the cracker industry employs small children. These children then develop skin ailments and even tuberculosis in worst cases. Yet we the privileged ones anxiously wait everywhere to burst these crackers. Anyways some people might think that I am being pathetically senti. But thats Indian mentality, isn't it? Having fun at the cost of others!

Anyways... Wishing my near and dear ones a happy and prosperous diwali!

My nose hurts, but does not bleed...

Ouchhh! Get your nose pierced and u would know! It is quite painful when that nose ring is inserted through your skin into your nose. People watchimg me thought i would cry in pain, but hey... Sharvari is a strong girl. she does not cry so easily. Tears did roll down my cheeks when it was beong done. But thats all! No screaming... No crying... Hehehehe!
It is painful and it still hurts. I Have almost turned nauseatic towards the smell of coconut oil after applying it around my nose for days.
Anyways! It is worth the trouble! Thats all I can say...

Jab se tere Naina...

Ahhh!!! Ranbir Kapoor... The new kid on the block... Quite an hottie!!!

Nasheebach pandu tar konashi konashi mhanun bhandu!

Just a few questions...
They say,"Truth always triumphs." Does it really? If it does, then why do dishonest people succeed?
They say,"The fruits of hardwork are sweet." Yeah! Yeah! By the time we taste the fruits of hardwork, we have already gulped down the sourness of life.
They say,"Do your best and leave the rest to God." If so, why do we always have to struggle even after working hard?
Now my final question...
Who are these 'they' who have put forward so many things, which can be easily contradicted?